Life Life Life

It’s been a while since I last posted and life has changed a lot for me. I recently finished my Master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy. I am the first person in my family to complete a 4 year degree and now the first to complete graduate school.  I am so proud of myself.  I have made many educational milestones. I plan to continue them.

I have now began my residency for licensure in VA. I also would like to get licensed in MD, but due to my circumstances I will have to pursue that a bit later. This city has no AAMFT approved supervisors anywhere nearby.  I’m not discouraged though. Once I get my VA license I feel confident that I will be able to get licensed in MD and any other state that I want to get licensed in.

Now the  question I have to consider is how to further my experiences in this field. I want to do outpatient therapy. I have applied for this position in my agency. If I do not get the position I will have to look elsewhere. I want to become more experienced in various theories and work in a more therapeutic setting.  I have so many aspirations and I just feel that I’m not in the right city to do so.  It’s so difficult to make change with all of the responsibilities that I have, but I will not give up. I will continue to work towards and  meet my goals.

Living and Fearing in America

I was just reading over some of my old posts and I have a post from August 2007 that made me rethink America since the election of Obama as our president. The post is entitled Living and Fearing in America also. I voted for the first time in my life this year. I was very excited about Obama running and having a chance to be the first African American president. I must say that he was not my first choice. Romney was my first choice. After Romney dropped out I lost interest in the whole election and had stopped paying attention for quite some time. But after listening to the news and radio and reading articles over the past couple of months I decided that I prefered Obama to McCain and would definitely vote for him.

The question on everyone's mind is whether or not America is shown to be less racist due to the election of an African American president. The answer is America is still a racist place. Polls on various new programs prove this. I heard a news program in which a lady called in reporting that her grandchild had gotten in trouble at school because she said that Obama would be impeached within his first year. No doubt she heard that from her parents. Hate groups are popping out of everywhere making plans to make their presence known. A couple of young racists even had plans to kill Obama as well a certain number of African Americans. This number was supposed to mean something to their racist group.

Although I am very happy to see that an African American president has been elected in our country, that does not mean that racism no longer exists in America. That just means that there are less rednecks voting than diverse, educated, open-minded Americans for which I am grateful!

389 Years Ago Poster

This is an awesome poster from WallStats.com http://www.wallstats.com/blog/389-years-ago/

My Favorite Soccer Player

LITTLE JOHNNY on Politics

A teacher in Jackson , Mississippi asked her 6th grade class how many of them were McCain fans..

Not really knowing what a McCain fan was, but wanting to be liked by the teacher, all the kids raised their hands except for Little Johnny. The teacher asked Little Johnny why he decided to be different... again.

Little Johnny said, 'Because I'm not a McCain fan.' The teacher said, 'Why aren't you a McCain fan?' Johnny said, 'Because I'm a Democrat.'

The teacher asked why he's a Democrat. Little Johnny answered, 'Well, my Mom's a Democrat and my Dad's a Democrat, so I'm a Democrat.'

The teacher asks, 'If your Mom was a moron, and your Dad was an idiot, what would that make you?' With a big smile, Little Johnny replied, 'That would make me a McCain fan.'

I always liked Little Johnny!

Sarah Palin and African Americans in Alaska

September 12, 2008

Sarah Palin and African Americans in Alaska

Villagers, my view is that character is measured by the things you do when nobody is looking. Do you wonder what vice presidential candidate Sarah Palin was thinking about African Americans before she stepped onto the national stage?

The following is a statement from one of the Juneteenth Directors in Alaska:

"As for Governor Sarah Palin's involvement in the African American community, the Governor's office hasn't participated in any of our Alaska Juneteenth Events. All previous Alaskan Governor's have traditionally attended and participated in our annual Juneteenth Celebration. Gov. Palin was the first governor not to send out a congratulatory letter or assist us in any way with our Juneteenth activities.

I didn't have the courtesy of receiving a reply when I asked for a representative from the Governor's office to come and speak at our Juneteenth Celebration if Governor Palin was unable to attend. I never even heard of Gov. Palin until she was elected Mayor of Wasilla, Alaska, in Mat-Su Valley.

Governor Palin is a very energetic and spontaneous woman. With some of the things being said and going around this state right now, I'm surprised none of the national media have bothered to come here and get the words directly from the mouths of the people who have lived with her all of these years instead of 'surfing the net!'

My other opinion is why would an individual who, to my knowledge, has not hired any African Americans on her gubernatorial staff, insist so passionately on being on a television show owned and operated by an African American, Oprah Winfrey?

While meeting with Black leaders concerning the absence of any African Americans on her staff, Gov. Palin responded that she doesn't have to hire any Blacks and was not intending to hire any. What kind of attitude is this toward African American for who may be the first Vice-President of the United States?

I understand Oprah did have Senator Obama on her show a few times and was the main person raising funds for him "before" the presidency race was in full swing. However, the key point here is that it is Oprah's prerogative not be used as a pawn to tilt the vote one way or another. Oprah has stated repeatedly that she wasn't going to have one side or the other on her show by choice. I thought that was what the Civil Rights Movement was all about, a persons right to make their ow n choices. I guess this isn't a Democracy at all anymore."

Gwendolyn Alexander, President
African American Historical Society of Alaska
Alaska Juneteenth Celebration
P. O. Box 143105
Anchorage AK 99514
(907) 884-6860

Joey Needs a New Home

I have come to a sad conclusion. . . I must get rid of Joey. I have no time for him. He's being neglected and I feel so bad. When we come home he jumps all over us dying for attention but we are all dead tired. Even on the weekends he cries for attention which he gets for short periods of time from Haile but even Haile wants to lay in the bed or go out with his friends after a long week of studying. Joey lays on the ottoman looking out of the window looking so sad. I have thought about finding him a new home but last night after looking at his pitiful face I decided that I really had to do it. I posted an ad on Craigslist and to my surprise there were many responses of people wanting Joey to join their family. He's so lucky to be wanted like this. I feel mostly bad because my family is the third family that Joey has lived with and it's always the same story, "We no longer have time for him."

My job this time is to find a forever home for Joey. Do you have time for Joey? Will you be able to take him in the car when you leave the house? He loves to get in the car. If I open the car door he just knows it's for him to get in. Can Joey sleep with you? He loves to snuggle under the covers? Do you have a porch? He loves to sit on the porch. He loves to run around the yard too, and although mine is a small one you should see him run around in circles. He's quite easy to train to. He doesn't even run into the street. Do you have time for grooming? I take him to get groomed once a month but he really needs to have his face washed every day due to the eye staining and hair brushed or it will get tangled. He needs lots of attention! Can you give it to him? If so please do let me know.

Joey is good with kids. I have a nine and three year old which he loves to death. Joey is their brother. LOL He loves to be cuddled. I call him out baby because we treat him as if he is our baby. We carry him around on our shoulder like a baby, he has a blankie like a baby (or should I say like my daughter) and I lay him on my lap and pat him like a baby. He's very spoiled and he loves it. Will you be able to spoil him like the baby that he is?

I will be posting recent pics soon but please let me know if you can provide a forever home for my baby Joey!

Don't Fool Yourself

Don't Fool Yourself, It's Not That Complicated

(from a man's point of view)

Last week we threw a bachelor party for oneof our good friends and then on Saturdayafternoon we stood beside him in our tuxeswhile he and his fiancé' said their vows. As I stood up there looking across thecrowd, I decided that our next topic on this pagewould definitely talk about marriage. I alsorealized that a lot of women may not want to hearthe truth about men and marriage because the truth is so simple that they could not acceptit without questioning their ownrelationship. But I am here to tell you:

DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED.

The sad thing about it is that it took a woman to bring it to my attention. I had a closefriend of mine tell me that she was pursuing astable man with a girlfriend. When I asked her did she feel wrong about that she said, "Man, a girlfriend isn't anything - girlfriends come and go.If the man is established and he isn't eithermarried or engaged, then he is not that seriousabout her and he is fair game".I thought about this for a minute and came to a cold conclusion:

IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH.

He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or iswaiting for her to become something better.Point blank! When he finds a woman that he issatisfied with, he will make her his wife.And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn'ttake 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. Itdoesn't take 2 or 3 years either.The only reason that a man will get married after thatlong of a time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me, that's definitely what he was doing all of those years.So if you should happen to find yourself inone of those "long term" relationships then maybe you should step back, take a look atyourself and wonder what it is that you'remissing that this man is not willing to fully commit.Don't make excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like "Oh he's waiting til hegets a better job" or "he's waiting to finish school"or "he's waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house".

DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED.

Which of these things can't be done with a wife or fiancé' by your side?So ladies, when you read this think aboutyour situation and that man that you are living with. Or the one that you spend many nightsover his house or him over yours. Think aboutyour baby's father that you are still in asexual relationship with. Think about your "ex"that you are in a sexual relationship with.Think about your "boyfriend". And definitely thinktwice before you brag on a relationship that's acouple of years long and you still have no commitment.Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know the situation. I've been there and I know that we can come up with some extremely reasonable excuses, but...

DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED!

Joey

I grew up being terribly afraid of dogs, and actually quite disgusted by anyone who kept animals in their home. Now as a mother my son asked me for a dog. My first instinct was to say no, but I didn't want him growing up feeling the same way that I had about dogs just because he had never been exposed to one. So a couple of months ago we got an adorable puppy named Kelsey. She was a WestiePoo, totally adorable. That was my first experience ever with a dog. Sadly we had to give her up. Haile didn't want to help out with the dog, I am way to busy for such a needy dog and she just didn't work out. So luckily the lady who I had gotten Kelsey from trained dogs. We chatted quite a bit. She told me that a cat would be best for my family. Now although I'm open to having a dog, I absolutely still think cats are gross and no one can change my mind about that. So she suggested that we get an older dog, one that is at least a year old. So last month I saw a post on Craigslist for a one year old trained MaltePoo. Of course I had to meet this fellow, especially since the very first dog that Haile had wanted was a MaltePoo. Haile had fallen in love with that dog and the owner was a terrible lady who. . . well anyway, we met Joey and fell in love. We got him last week. We had asked the owner to hold him for us, which she did and we appreciated it, but I'm not sure if she took care of him in the meantime. When we picked him up he stunk of cigarettes and there was matted gook around his eyes. He was just disgusting but I took him to the groomers the next day and he turned out to be the dog that we thought that he would be and we just love him!

I Actually Like Folgers!!